In The Fight Documentary – Episode 1 Released
In this episode of In The Fight we follow amateur boxer, Phil Parrish, as he attempts to beat the odds and win the Olympic Boxing Last Chance Qualifier Tournament in Cincinatti, OH. Will he overcome the impossible and win the tournament or is it too much too soon for this young boxer?
Written and directed by Erik Charles and Bobby Gorham, In The Fight takes you behind the scenes as people from all walks of life battle their demons, overcome obstacles, and meet personal challenges to accomplish their goals.
In the end, we learn that success is not the smoothest road to travel but what we become during the journey is what matters.
I’m really proud of how this turned out and hope that you enjoy it. Please leave us some feedback after you’ve watched it. Enjoy!
6 Ways To Coach Your Child To Better Behavior
I’m not a perfect father. Ha. I know, “way to establish some credibility right out of the gates.” But I don’t try to be perfect father because I never will be. My goal as a father is not to be perfect but to teach my kids how to deal with life and make good decisions when I’m not around. Life isn’t always perfect. However, I am a parent. I brought people into this world and I have an obligation to teach them how to do the right things and make good decisions. You have the same responsibility to your kids.
My kids behaving properly, for now. 
At CNY Mixed Martial Arts we get quite a few parents that come in and want help with their child’s behavior problem. I hear a myriad of excuses as to why their child is misbehaving. My son has ADHD. My daughter has a learning disability. The mother doesn’t help out. The father doesn’t help out. It goes on and on.
You may not realize this but the world doesn’t care why your child is misbehaving. No judge is going to let little Johnny off the hook for speeding, shoplifting, (insert your own issue here), because he has ADHD. He isn’t in trouble for having ADHD. He’s in trouble for not managing his behavior properly. If your children aren’t behaving the way they should be they are going to face escalating consequences as they move on in their lives.
You might be asking yourself, “why should you listen to this guy?” You don’t necessarily have to. As matter of fact, you should read this and determine for yourself it makes sense in your situation. Then do what you think is best.
Before we get to any techniques though, I want you to understand something. Your child does not want to misbehave. You might think they get off on it but they don’t. Negative behavior elicits negative feelings, emotions, and unhappiness. Your child wants to be happy and so do you. Here’s how to make that happen more often.
Let’s use an example of your child doesn’t want to pick up their room. Because they don’t want to do this, they become verbally abusive. The reason your child is exhibiting this behavior is because he or she thinks it will get them out of picking up their room. It’s probably worked for them in the past either for the same chore or for having to do dishes or homework or whatever. What your child is telling you with this type of behavior is not that they are a bad kid but that they don’t know any other way to handle this other than to be verbally abusive. This doesn’t excuse their abusive behavior and yes, there should be consequences.
You can tell your child to stop doing something until you’re blue in the face. You can “ground” them for weeks or months at a time, but if you don’t teach your child what to do instead of the negative, abusive behaviors you are just going to see more of those behaviors and you’re going to become more and more frustrated and exhausted.
James Lehman, MSW, an expert on child psychology and author of and excellent program called The Total Transformation, calls these “replacement behaviors.” You can say “don’t yell at me” but that doesn’t teach them what to say or how to say the right thing. The negative behavior that your child is displaying is successful behavior. Like I said, it’s worked for them in the past. Telling them not to do something that has been successful in getting them out of certain chores and/or responsibilities in the past will not work. You have to teach them a replacement behavior that will help them deal with their responsibilities in a better way.
So what do you do? Here’s some ideas:
1) First of all, talk with your child after things have settled. It won’t do you any good to have a conversation when they are being abusive or when you are angry. It also won’t do you any good to ignore their irresponsible or abusive behavior. It will rear it’s ugly head until your child learns a better way.
2) Acknowledge the fact that “xyz chore” is not the absolute most fun thing to do. It is however a responsibility that they must take care of before they go off and do whatever they feel is the most fun thing to do. Whining, complaining, and being abusive will not be successful in your family anymore.
3) Explain that being abusive is only going to take them away from the things they want to really do. Abusive and irresponsible behavior has consequences and your child needs to know specifically what those consequences are.
In the case of my kids being verbally abusive to anyone (and this includes texting), they lose their phone privileges until they can demonstrate respectful verbal communication for an entire week. If they slip up during that week, it’s starts over. The punishment will last until they demonstrate acceptable behavior for a week. They know this and I have very few issues with them being verbally abusive.
4) Remind them that not everything they have to do in life is going to be something that they really want to do. That doesn’t mean we can avoid it and/or abuse others to get out of it. Reinforce the fact that being responsible and handling things properly has zero punishment. There are no consequences for doing the right thing and doing what you’re supposed to do.
5) Help them with replacement behaviors that are acceptable to your family. Teach them what to do next time they fell angry, disappointed, upset, helpless, etc. What is the behavior you would like them to exhibit in those situations? You need to teach your child another way of handling things instead of swearing or screaming at you or others.
6) Encourage you child when you see improvements and when they slip up and revert to their old behaviors. What I mean is suppose your child loses his temper and says something abusive. Instead of getting angry be the coach that you have to be here. Say something along the lines of, “I know you can handle this situation better than you are right now. We’ve talk about it and I’ve seen you do it. Let’s handle this properly.”
Yes, your child will “slip up” and go back to their old behavior from time to time. They may even challenge you. Especially if abusive behavior has been going on for any length of time. But stand your ground and you will see their behavior change for the long term and they will love you for teaching them a better way.
NOTE: This post is not intended to be a substitute for family counseling.
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Your Ultimate Creation
Colonel Sanders is one of the most recognized celebrities in the world.
Let me ask you something, when was the last time you worked on YOURSELF? When was the last time that you truly did something just for you? It’s been a while hasn’t it?
Today, I’d like to challenge you to do something for yourself. It doesn’t have to be an elaborate exercise or a grandiose vacation. Enjoy a book that has nothing to do with your career. Sit on your porch and have a nice cup of tea (Golden Monkey, if you want a recommendation). Get a workout in that makes you feel good about yourself. Start that business that you’ve always wanted to start, check out Entrepreneur Magazine if you need some ideas. It’s not too late. You can re-create who you are into who you want to be at any time you decide to and today is the day.
Colonel Sanders started franchising Kentucky Fried Chicken, KFC, when he was 65 years old. He received his first Social Security check in the amount of $105 and quickly realized he could not live on that meager amount each month. He didn’t sit back and say, “life is over.” He decided instead of retiring at 65, he would start a whole new career! So he traveled across the country by car from restaurant to restaurant, cooking batches of chicken for restaurant owners and their employees. By the time he was 77 he was a multi-millionaire and had more than 600 KFC outlets.
Your ultimate creation is you. Do yourself a favor… do something just for you today. You deserve it. You’ll find it to be among the most rewarding acts you’ll ever engage in.
“The most creative act you will ever undertake is the act of creating yourself.”
— Deepak Chopra, M.D., Author on mind-body medicine and spirituality.
Coaching Butterflies
Get those butterflies in formation!
I’ll admit it … I get butterflies in my stomach whenever my students compete. I know what the people that I train are capable of. I know they can do well. I know they can win. They show it in practice and they go out and prove it every weekend.
I still get anxious though. It’s not because my reputation as a trainer is on the line. It’s not because having successful competitors is good for business. It’s because I want them to do well. I want them to prove all the doubters wrong. They way I know they can. I want them to erase all the failures in their life with this one victory. Even if it’s only erased for one night.
So what do I do about these butterflies? Nervousness doesn’t go away. You can’t try to block it out or forget about it. It’s still there. What I do, and coach my competitors to do as well, is focus that nervous energy, channel it towards a positive outcome. That energy can be controlled and directed.
I have to perform as a coach. I have to be aware and focused. I have to “read” what’s going on with my competitor and make sure they are focused on the task at hand. There’s an old saying that goes something like, “It’s ok to have butterflies in your stomach however to be effective you have to get them to fly in formation.”
My butterflies are in formation. Time to roll!
Unlikely Hero: Randy “The Wolf” Smith To Make Bellator Debut
This Saturday will mark another milestone in the career of CNY MMA student and coach, Randy “The Wolf” Smith. He’ll be making his big league MMA debut against Azunna Anyanwu at Bellator 44.
The Wolf landing a big right hand. Image via sherdog.com
It’s not easy getting on the big shows and for many, that’s impressive by itself. What’s more impressive is that just a few short years ago Smith could barely get through one round, let alone have any kind of opportunity to compete as an athlete on this level.
The Wolf is one of those students I love to talk about. He’s an unlikely hero. The guy no “experts” think can win but does all the time. He didn’t come to CNY MMA with any kind of crazy athletic talent. He didn’t roll in here with any kind of wrestling or boxing or kickboxing pedigree. On the contrary, he was weighing in at 360+ pounds and had trouble controlling his own body weight. His reasons for success are simple … he worked hard and he stuck with it.
His obstacles have been great (drugs, alcohol, jail, obesity, and more) but what he’s developed into in overcoming those obstacles has been greater. He’s the guy you can’t help but root for. He’s the hard working, blue collar type that comes to CNY MMA and does the best they can do.
The training camp for The Wolf’s upcoming fight has been rigorous. He’s in shape, well prepared, focused, and ready to win. This Saturday at Bellator 44, you’re going to see the best Wolf you’ve ever seen. I’m proud to be his trainer and his fan. Saturday is our day!
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10+ iPad Apps For Business And Coaching
I take my iPad everywhere. Buying this thing was probably one of the best business and productivity decisions I’ve made in a long time. Yes, there will be a CNY MMA iPad case coming out soon. Ha (inside joke for the people who know I put the school’s logo on everything).
Anyway, I’m always running into other iPad users and we usually wind up talking about the business apps that we’re using. There’s always one or two apps that someone didn’t have that turned out to be a really useful for the other person.
I figured I would share a couple of them here with you on my blog. Saves me from having to email people and maybe you’ll find a couple on the list to be useful for you too. I’m not receiving any kind of compensation from any of the companies or products recommended on here. I just provided links to make it easier for you to get more info if you wanted it. These also aren’t in any particular order.
If you click the links, they will take you to the iTunes store where you can view screen shots, get pricing, and/or more detailed information than what I’m giving you here. Basically, what I’m doing here is telling you how I use the programs below. Click the link for more in depth info.
GoodReader
This program is a pdf reader and editor. Not only can you edit text but you can highlight and draw on the pdf document you are viewing. All of your edits are saved right to the document. I get a lot of files in pdf format that need editing. Unless I’m at my computer with Adobe Acrobat, I can’t edit them. I like to make notes and highlights to magazine articles I’ve read and/or are reading. I can then send them to staff, students, or whoever with my notes and highlights saved within. As our students up at Fort Drum say, “Too easy!”
Penultimate
Penultimate is a sketch pad app that I use to jot down all of the ideas that pulsate through my head during the course of the day. A tap on the iPad and Penultimate creates a png of my sketch or idea which can then be emailed to whoever I choose. I can create multiple “notebooks” within Penultimate. Right now, I have one for design ideas, marketing ideas, business ideas, and random thoughts. If I like a design or marketing idea enough, I can just email the page to whoever could use the idea or make it happen. It’s also great for taking hand written notes. Short notes.
ScreenChalk
This program is a must for all coaches. You know the telestrator that all of the big sports broadcasts use, where they draw on the screen? Yeah, that’s what this is for your iPad. I load in fight videos and I can analyze and draw angles, point out defensive holes, show openings and attacks on opponents, etc. I can do it live in front of my athletes or I can save it and email it to them for them to watch on their own or both. I love using this program. It takes my ability to communicate valuable and strategic information to another level.
GotoMeeting
Due to our business being conducted in multiple locations, it’s very cost effective and necessary to have meetings over the internet. Now, I don’t need to cancel or reschedule weekly meetings because I’m traveling. As long as I have this app and my iPad, I can do the meeting from anywhere.
Box.net
Access, view, share, and collaborate on files. This program is a phenomenal time saver. I send an idea to our marketing. That idea is laid out and uploaded to our box.net account. I preview it and make comments. The author is automatically notified that I have made comments to their file. They update the file and it’s done. Great for approving artwork and design stuff fast. This program alone was worth buying the iPad for. It has cut our turnaround time for artwork approval to a third of the time of what it used to be.
VNC Viewer
Control any computer you want from your iPad. That’s right. Log into your computer from anywhere and see your entire desktop on your iPad. Your finger moves the pointer on your desktop and a tap clicks it. You can run your computer from anywhere with your iPad just like you were sitting in front of it. That’s sick.
Keynote, Pages, Numbers
I give speeches, make presentations, and look at spreadsheets a lot. This suite of programs makes creating and editing all of that portable and easy. You can also view and edit Microsoft Word, PowerPoint, and Excel files with these programs. These three programs are worth the price tag of $10 each.
iBooks
I used to love going in to Barnes and Noble. I would sit in the aisle of the business section and read a little bit of each book before I bought any. I would spend hours as a teenager just sitting there reading pieces of all kinds of business books. I don’t have the time to sit there in the bookstore for that long anymore. Now with iBooks I sit in my bed at night and do it. It’s just like back in the day when I would sit in the aisles of the bookstore only it’s a lot more comfortable in my bed. Nostalgia plus comfort.
Entrepreneur Magazine
This is easily my favorite magazine of all time. Every time I read it I get a new idea or new way of doing something. I’ve been reading it since I was 15 years old and it has been an immense resource and “secret” to my success as an entrepreneur. I’m also pretty stoked that I don’t have to carry four copies of the magazine with me at all times now. I can just read them on my iPad. I can also email articles and pages directly from the app. Fast Company is another magazine that got on the iPad bandwagon early and is a great magazine.
Twitter
Twitter is easily the best of the social media big dogs to be on the iPad. Facebook doesn’t even have an iPad app. The twitter app on iPad makes it easy to update multiple accounts, read tweets by people you’re following, and even click links without leaving the program. It takes a minute to get used to it, especially if you have used other versions. Twitter can be a lot of fun, last week I used it to tweet the corner advice I was giving to one of my Boxer’s who competed in the NY Amateur Championships. I had quite a few followers who really dug that. Follow me at http://twitter.com/erikcharlestm
Dragon Dictation
This one is pretty self explanatory … you talk, it puts your words into written text. This app is crazy accurate too. I was demonstrating this thing to Tamdan and the only word it was messing up was his name. Regular people screw his name up all the time so it’s not a big deal that Dragon Dictation can’t get it right either. The other neat thing this can do is that with one tap you can use it to speak your tweets directly to your twitter or update your facebook status.
Bonus recommendations:
Get a stylus.
It drives me crazy to see fingerprints on my iPad. Using a stylus basically eliminates that altogether. It’s also a lot easier to sketch and write notes with it. I feel like my iPad responds better to my stylus too although I can’t really verify that’s true. It might just be in my head because I love my stylus. A stylus runs about $20 but it’s definitely the way to go for high volume iPad users that have some OCD for fingerprints and a clean iPad screen.
Netflix
I love watching documentaries, especially if it involves some kind of conspiracy theory. With the amount of time I spend waiting, for 1 event last week we spent a total of 13 hours of waiting for 22 minutes of competition. Netflix is great for killing time and the iPad app works awesome.
I hope that you found this list useful. Leave a comment with any apps you may have found that aren’t on my list.
Never Let What You Can’t Do Stop You From Doing What You Can
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I can’t throw a curveball to save my life. I have two left feet on the dance floor. My sense of humor is practically laughable. I’m a hair stylist’s worst nightmare. I have zero athletic ability. And I can barely strum a guitar.
Who am I?
I’m Bill Gates, one of the richest if not the richest man in the world.
Like everyone else, there are thousands of things you cannot do. Focus on what you can do and want to do, and then … go about doing them well. You’ll flat-out surprise yourself.
Keep The Change
I was running home from school one day, yes running. I would pretty much run home from school every day because I had a newspaper delivery route that I had to get done. In selling some of my newspaper deliveries I promised some customers their newspaper would be delivered by a certain time. I wasn’t going to disappoint so I would run home … rain, sleet, and snow.
Occasionally, I would ride my bike to and from school, when I had a bike. There was a problem of thievery in the neighborhood that I lived in at this particular time. It took me like five or six weeks to save up for a bike so after having three bikes stolen, I pretty much gave up on buying anymore. I was sick of supplying the neighborhood punks with new bikes. I was stuck making the 1.4 mile trek home from school every day on foot.
Well one day in my mad dash to get home I happened to be the first person to go down this particular trail where this small gang of bullies would hang out. Apparently, what these punks were doing was waiting for the first person to go down the trail and then they would beat them up every day. This day was my day to get beat up.
I was embarrassed. I was angry. I was hurt. And I immediately thought to myself,” I need to learn some of that Bruce Lee crap so I can beat up three guys at the same time!”
I didn’t like feeling embarrassed and helpless. I wanted to make a change. If I was ever in that situation again I wanted to be able to defend myself. I came to martial arts.
The majority of people who come to martial arts do not come for the sole purpose of becoming a better fighter, as I did. However, we all came to martial arts for the sole purpose of becoming better. Better physically. Better mentally. Better emotionally.
In our quest to become better we need to change. Improving yourself and changing yourself go hand in hand. They are not separable. To excel at whatever it is we put our time, energy, and effort into we must be able to handle change effectively.
Street art from one of my favorite artists, Banksy
I’ve experienced many personal and professional changes throughout my life. Since we are in the business of change here at CNY MMA I figured I would share some tips I have used to help me successfully deal with changes in my life. Maybe these 5 tips will help you as well.
1) View change as an opportunity to learn. Welcome change into your life. Resisting change leads to maintenance of the status quo. The status quo is the archenemy of improvement.
2) Have a long term vision and goal. Change can cause temporary short term pain. Focusing on the pain or discomfort that change brings only prolongs the discomfort. Focusing on your goals makes pain and discomfort just a small part of the process.
3) Stretch your ability to change in little ways everyday. Trade an hour of watching TV for an hour of reading everyday. Go somewhere without using a GPS. Use a traffic jam to meditate.
4) Ask yourself how this change will allow you to grow. What is the improvement coming from your changes? What benefits are there to handling this change effectively?
5) Trust yourself. Sometimes in life we screw things up so bad that we may lose trust in our own ability to change and improve. Learn from your mistakes in the past and they won’t be your mistakes in the future. You are capable of amazing things but you have to stick with it and trust yourself.
The more screwed up and out of control your life is, your body is, or your mental state is, means that change is going to be all the more difficult and challenging. Be prepared to show strength and determination. You can handle and learn from everything that comes your way in life. I learned this from martial arts.
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The Bullies: If You Can’t Beat Them, Don’t Join Them
In the neighborhoods where I spent a good portion of my childhood, I was the only white kid that I knew, other than my sister. Everyone else was black or Puerto Rican. As you can imagine, I stood out like a sore thumb and my sister’s big mouth didn’t help me either.
“My brother knows Karate and he’ll beat you up,” she used to say. I think she still says it.
"Telling people I was a Green Belt in Karate was supposed to scare them."
I remember the bullies on my blocks mocking my Karate and beating me up to the sounds Bruce Lee used to make in his movies. And honestly, I didn’t know anything about Karate except for the two books I would constantly check out of the school library, one was a cartoon book and the other was a making of Enter The Dragon book or something like that. Telling people I was a Green Belt in Karate was supposed scare them so they wouldn’t mess with me. The bullies on my block couldn’t care less about what color belt I had, what I knew, or who I knew.
There was one incident that happened in the backyard of my Mom’s friends house while we were visiting her. While my Mom and her friend smoked cigarettes and tried to come up with the next winning lotto number, these kids came over and started a fight with me and my sister. When my Mom and her friend noticed this, they came out to help us. Not only were these kids not afraid of adults but they started throwing rocks at us.
I would pray every night for God to get us out of there. By this point in my life I had seen people get shot, including my own mother and quite honestly, I didn’t believe in God, but since nothing else was working I figured I would try it … just in case He was listening. I even made my sister start praying with me every night. As the prayers went unanswered I became more and more resentful of my mother for putting me in this situation, of my sister who kept getting me in trouble with her mouth, and of being different.
I hated my life. I didn’t know how to stop all of this. I was thinking about suicide as early as 7 or 8 years old.
If only I was black. Being black was something I would sit back and fantasize about. If I was black, it would be easier. My Mom’s boyfriend, who was black as well, would laugh when I would tell him that I thought being black was easier. Then he would follow with a lecture of how tough it is to be a black person in America.
I didn’t care about living in America. For all I knew, we were in Viet Nam. There was fighting everywhere. At home, at school, at the playground, in the corner store. Yes, in the corner store. I actually got into a fight inside the store.
No, what I cared about was fitting in. I cared about being able to go to the store and not getting into a fight. I cared about learning my times tables in Math and not having to figure out who I was going to have to fight that day.
Plus, I wanted a kick ass name like my friends, Jamarico and Tamika. Ha. I’m serious. That really did cross my mind as a benefit to being black.
This is what I felt like.
It was crazy though. I had constant anxiety and constant fear with no help in sight. I was falling behind in school because I would either not go or if I did go I was more concerned about protecting myself than learning what 6 times 7 was.
By the time we moved out of those violent neighborhoods, I was violent, physically and verbally. I was violent towards my brothers and sisters, my Mom’s boyfriends/husbands, classmates, and even school officials. At Southern Cayuga Elementary school my desk was literally inside the Principal’s office. I had become something I hated most, a bully.
When I started my Martial Arts training, I was hoping to learn how to beat up multiple people at once. You know, just like how Bruce Lee would do it in the movies. Little did I know that I would find a mentor and a Father that would teach me not only what it was to be a Martial Artist but what it was to be a real man.
I was in awe by Sifu Kevin Seaman. He could beat up anybody he wanted to but he didn’t. He was respected and had this power that he didn’t abuse anybody to get. People looked up to him, volunteered to do things for him, brought him gifts on his birthday. I know, this sounds like I’m describing a scene from one of my favorite mafia movies but this was the real deal. No guns and no violence.
He was an example to me that articulating your feelings, communicating honestly with others, and solving problems in a non violent way wasn’t just for pussies. It was what real men did, powerful men.
Math is fun!
These skills were difficult for me to develop; like learning how to multiply when you’re in 5th grade and should have learned it when you were in 2nd grade, but I did it. I learned how to solve problems, not create bigger ones. I learned how to build people up, not break them down. I learned how to take the negatives from my past and make them positives. And even though I do lose my temper on occasion, this is my daily focus.
The point is, I’ve been on both sides of bullying and what I have learned in those experiences helps me, help others, every day. So now that you’ve gotten through the longest introduction to a how to article ever … let me ask you to stay focused for 2 more minutes and read how to handle either side of bullying behavior.
If your child is a bully
The first thing you have to understand is that you have to address this. Do not think ignoring your child’s bullying behavior will make it go away or that it will get better on it’s own. If bullies are not taught more appropriate ways to solve problems, they become abusive parents, spouses, and bosses.
You also have to set the boundaries for acceptable behavior and accept no excuse from your child for not staying within those boundaries. Bullies give us all kinds of reasons why they did this, why they did that but there is no excuse for abusive behavior, period.
There needs to be consequences for abusive behavior as well. Apologizing is not enough. They use abusive language, they lose their phone priviledges until they can demonstrate that they know how to speak properly and respectfully. Let them know up front that this is the consequence of using abusive language.
Later, you can discuss with your child better ways to handle the situation that got them into trouble.
If your child is bullied
The best thing you can teach your child is not to respond to bullying, to get away. Most bullies will be less likely to pursue them and will move on to someone who is an easier target. Teach them to avoid bullies, if they can.
They also need to know that if avoiding them doesn’t work, they need to get help from somebody who is more powerful than the bully, like you, a teacher, or police. Your child should not have to fight because someone else is abusive.
Getting hit in school is assault and you parents out there that are reading this shouldn’t back off when it happens. Make the bullies parents have to go get their child at the police station. See if that doesn’t wake up the bullies parents to their child’s abusive behavior.
Teach your child that fighting back isn’t always about throwing a punch. Be encouraging. Help your child work through the situation. Give your ideas to them. Don’t just step in and take over. Then your child will feel helpless on both sides. Can’t deal with the bully and can’t work through things on their “own”.
Finally, let your child know that if this bullying doesn’t stop and/or the situation doesn’t improve, you are going to step in and protect the innocent whether it be your child or someone else’s.
It sucks to be bullied. As a parent, it is your responsibility to provide a healthy environment for your children. There should be zero tolerance for violence and zero tolerance for bullying; in your house, in their school, and in the neighborhood. Demand it and support it.
Find a good, reputable Martial Arts school, like CNY MMA, and enroll your child. A good school will help bullies learn better ways to achievement, recognition, and solving problems than abuse. And that same school will teach your child ways to avoid bullies, what to do if they are bullied, and how to protect themselves if it becomes physical.
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